Unlocking The Mysteries of Chastity Play: An Introductory Guide

Chastity play does not consist of hiring a pornstar or escort, having her dress in nun clothes, and letting her perform a long list of bad things by herself, on herself, on your sweet self, and with your sweet self! Nor is it about No Nut November pledges and refraining from sex till your wedding night, so that you might end up impressing your dearly beloved with the kind of eager truncheon that’s going to give her guts little if any breathing space!

So, what is chastity play and its dynamics, aspects, and possible tips for newbies who wanna play hardball with Lady chastity in a D cup? Let’s go find out, folks!

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Before we begin, it is important to note that while individuals can practice chastity play solo, most prefer to do it with a partner. This piece is therefore mostly written with chastity play couples in mind.

Now, chastity play is all about being adventurous enough to try new things and having enough confidence in your Dom to hand them the keys to your sexual and other pleasures. It can be a short-term erotic play or a long-term lifestyle choice based on orgasm denial and is at its simplest a form of kink play that focuses on your being denied usage of your genitalia for sexual purposes. You can use that naval cannon to scribble your signature in the snow, but masturbation and sex are not allowed. Of course, it can be hard to enforce chastity when your boner is uber-accessible and that’s why chastity play relies on the usage of tools that keeps the penis locked away till whenever the Dom wants it uncaged.

So what is the appeal? Well, life as we know it is rather anxiety-crammed. An ungodly amount of stress is usually present and it doesn’t help that the government is all up in our asses any chance it gets. Dealing with all that shit can be as simple as smoking some calming grass, or getting drunk. Or you could just get a Dom to lock up your privates. The latter is surprisingly rather effective at calming and de-stressing folks and removing a lot of what they gotta worry about, which includes sexual performance.

Thus, rather than worrying about how to shift your partner’s gut, you dedicate yourself to non-sexually pleasing her how she wants, like making meals or keeping the house cleaner than a surgical ward. Thoughtfulness, kindness, empathy and more get a boost and you turn from a self-centered beast to a more mellow version of yourself who’s more willing to find pleasure in the littlest things and more open to new experiences with your partner.

A lack of focus on sexual pleasure can also make you more open to your Dom. This will build trust, connection, discipline, and intimacy and foster a deeper level of relationship.

But the truth is that even with a chastity cage on, any determined fella can still find a way to masturbate and orgasm. This can be done by inserting a vibrating urethral sounder into the pee hole of the chastity cage, or by any other means. Not doing that takes discipline and willpower and illustrates your trust in your Dom to know when you need to be milked or rewarded with sex. So yeah, chastity play has a lot to do with trust and self-control and not everyone has sufficient doses of that.

Dedicated chastity play will also make you stop seeing sex as your right and duty. It will transform into a gift and privilege that you get to earn and one that can be withdrawn at any time if you are not as obedient or disciplined as your Dom desires. Plus with sexual activity being denied, heightened sexual desire will be the inevitable consequence. This will trigger a greater need to please and be in the good book of the Dom, plus more intense orgasms whenever sex does happen.

Okay, let’s talk about the dynamics in play. For the Dom, having control of when the sub can have sex or even pee is a definite turn-on. Such power can be intoxicating, mind-blowing even. It must however be always used responsibly and that is why if you are a sub, getting the right Dom for your needs, wants, limits, and capabilities is super-important.

The sub, on the other hand, gives up a lot of control every time they put on the chastity device of their choice and the fact they gotta submit, be vulnerable, play nice, and be on their best behavior to earn sexual and other gifts is a big turn on. Plus like we said before, chastity play can help BDSM couples build trust, intimacy, discipline, and communication, while helping couples to safely and erotically explore large parts of their sexuality, fantasies, emotions, and personalities. You could say it lets them be themselves to the fullest, without judgment, exploitation, or condemnation. Talk about liberating!

Chastity Play Tips for Beginners

Some useful tips for beginners in the chastity play game are as follows:

  • Get The Right Tool For Your Tool: the right tool refers to the correct chastity toy for your needs. There’s a large variety of them toys -chastity belts, chastity tubes, and chastity cages- made from steel, plastic and silicone and it is important to get the right one that’s made of body-safe materials and right for your needs. You need to get the right size too and some experimentation might be needed. Or you could go for a design with variable cock sizes. You also gotta note that some chastity toys are entirely closed up and you can’t pee with them on. Others have openings or are connected to your urethra and can be used for weeks at a time without requiring removal for cleaning and other purposes. Some toys are also easier to clean than others, while some are best used for when you might be going through areas with metal detectors. More, some toys are designed to make erections painful and constrict the penis. So, as a newbie, you and your Dom should carefully decide on the kind of chastity toy you both want, what it is gonna be used for, how long it is gonna be worn, and whether it will come with an actual lock, or something like a tamper-proof mechanism that lets your Dom know if you did stuff with your toy that you were not allowed to. It might be best to have a range of chastity toys for a range of needs and uses.
  • Go Slow: if you are using a chastity toy for the first time, our advice would be to start slow by using the toy for an hour or two for a week or two, before ramping up usage. That will let your body get used to the feel of chastity toys and let you see if this is something you actually wanna do. Going slow also gives you practical insight on dealing with hygiene concerns and sleeping with a chastity toy on as a newbie is not recommended. And oh, if you have a bush down there, trimming it will be of great help. Shaving though might cause chaffing.
  • Lube Matters: lube, especially of the water-based variety will be of great help. It will make putting your chastity toy on, and taking it off smooth and stress-free and help prevent inflammation.
  • Know How To Care For Your Toy: chastity toys require some maintenance. Regular cleaning is essential, though this will vary depending on what the toy is made of and the number of holes it comes equipped with. Cleaning can be accomplished with blasts from your shower head, or you could use a soft toothbrush to lightly scrub the interior and exterior of the cage, though this might not be possible if the chastity toy is tight fitting. Keeping your chastity toy clean means you lessen the risks of injury and won’t be visiting the ER anytime soon, while wailing like a castrated bear!
  • Prepare For Emergencies: shit happens and it might be necessary to take off your chastity device as speedily as possible. So, we would advise keeping a spare key handy or going with non-metallic chastity toys that in an emergency can be quickly ripped off or cut off with little to no harmful effect on your privates.

And that’s all for now on chastity toys for newbies who like their goodies caged in the boonies! Got some chastity toy experiences and tidbits you wanna share? Then come to the comment section and say your piece.

One thought on “Unlocking The Mysteries of Chastity Play: An Introductory Guide

  1. Thank you for publishing this, I just wear scrotum rings S/S most of the time and swim while wearing them also, i have managed to accumulate a set of graduated nine solid rectangular profile rings in stainless and when all are fixed in place i think that they are the ultimate in Ball stretching sensation they not only look good, you can have a good night’s rest while wearing them, It is a good practice to get into for maintaining your libido.

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