Penis Piercings and Anal Sex: How to Prevent Discomfort

Jacobs_LadderBosendorfer: I need help! I’m a gay male (bottom) and have started seeing a guy who has a Jacob’s Ladder piercing (4 bars.) Sometimes I can take it, but often I just can’t. I try to live by a “never complain, never explain” attitude but some days I just feel torn up during the process and afterward. Is there some way I can take it more easily? Am I being a giant puss wagon about this?! I want to see what I can do on my end first before I suggest removing it =/. I’m starting to really dig this dude and I just don’t want to dilute his love for kink with too much vanilla… Some people just don’t care for Häagen Dazs ¯\_(?)_/¯!

Sex with genital piercings is exciting and can bring pleasure to a completely new level. However, it can also be a somewhat tricky affair before you get used to it. This goes both to the person with piercings and their partner. It is therefore recommended to take necessary precautions that will ensure satisfaction for both partners.

Here, we will outline the basic safety measures as well as issues with discomfort. While sex with a pierced partner can be very enjoyable, it can also bring discomfort – and Jacob’s Ladder is one of the more extreme piercings to encounter as a receiving partner. We will offer some advice that will help to make the experience more comfortable. Ultimately, however, it is all down to agreement and communication between partners: nobody should feel pressured into enduring discomfort. That being said, there are some things you can do to make the experience more pleasurable.

First things first, let’s talk about safe sex and penis piercings.

Sex and Penis Piercings: Stay Safe

There are certain things to keep in mind if you wish to have sex with genital piercings. The number one thing is safety. Genital piercings do not prevent you from enjoying sex; in fact, they can make sex even more exciting and arousing. However, the jewelry itself may prove to be problematic for some people. Furthermore, a specific care has to be taken about condoms.

While genital piercings and genital jewelry do not prevent you to use a condom during sex (in fact, condoms are often highly recommended), it is important to choose a large enough condom that can accommodate piercing jewelry. Also, the jewelry worn has to be smooth and to fit nicely so it doesn’t tear the condom. It may take some trial and error until you find the best condom that suits your piercings perfectly, but it is possible to find the model and brand that will go great with your piercings. Because of trial and error approach, it is highly recommended for any man with genital piercings to try different condoms before engaging in an intercourse with another person. This is the only way to figure out which type of a condom suits you best and which ones are best to be avoided.

Also, another thing to keep in mind is lube. If you have genital piercings you may wish to apply lube on the inside of a condom. The amount of lube used should be enough to prevent the jewelry from tearing up the condom but also small enough not to make the condom slip off during intercourse.

Sex and Discomfort

Another common you may encounter is discomfort during sex. This is particularly true for receiving partners and not the owner of the piercings. For the owner of a genital piercing, the most critical time is healing. This is why it’s important not to have sex right after getting a new piercing done. The abstinence time varies depending on the piercing in question, but it is vital to stick to the advice your piercer gives you. Once it is safe to have sex with your new piercing, it is highly recommended to use condoms, at least for a while.

However, once this period is over most piercing owners will be able to proceed with sex without a problem. Sure, some adjustments and changes to sexual routine are to be expected, but you should not encounter problems. If these problems persist, it is advisable to consult your piercer or even a medical provider. You should be able to have sex with genital piercings. In fact, some piercings are specially targeted to make sex even more enjoyable. At worst, it should be a neutral change, but it should not prevent you from having sex.

Which brings us to the issue of receiving partners. Many partners report great satisfaction and enjoyment they get from their man’s pierced penis. Both men and women claim that having sex with a man with a pierced penis is a special experience that brings pleasure to a whole new level. That being said, it is not unheard of that sex may become uncomfortable for the receiving partner, especially if their man has multiple penis piercings.

The discomfort is often reported for anal sex. Being a receiving partner during anal sex can become uncomfortable or even painful. In the case of multiple penis piercings, the issue is even more pronounced, especially if the man has large gauge piercings or if the jewelry makes the penis particularly rugged or wide.

The good news is that there are some things you can do to make the experience more comfortable. However, it is important to talk to your partner and work together at overcoming this problem.

How to Make it More Comfortable?

Here are certain things that will make sex, particularly anal sex, more comfortable for the receiving partner. None of them is a magical cure, though: sometimes, they need to be combined to achieve the desired effect and sometimes it will simply not work completely. But they are helpful and can be used to make sex more relaxing and enjoyable:

  • Use quality anal lube – and use plenty of it. As you probably know, good lube is a must-have for anal sex. If your man has a pierced penis, this is even more important. It is vital to use more lube than normally – jewelry and added girth to a penis will make penetration more difficult. In order to stay on the safe size, everything has to be lubed properly: the penis, jewelry and the receiving partner.
  • Use anal toys before you go. It is often helpful to use large butt plugs or other anal toys before sex. It will make your body prepared and ready, so it will be easier for you to take your partner’s pierced penis. When using anal toys, make sure they are big enough to make a difference. Also, don’t forget to use plenty of lube!
  • Be aroused. Probably the easiest way to overcome pain and discomfort is to be really aroused. Your partner and you should take enough time for you to be ready. Use toys, masturbate, touch each other – the opportunities are endless. Once you are completely excited and craving for more let him penetrate you.
  • Go slowly. Your partner needs to understand that it’s impossible to simply shove his penis inside you. In the case of multiple penis piercings, such as Jacob’s Ladder, it may not even be physically possible for him to go fast. Take your time and go one piercing or one piercing pair at a time. Take some rest between piercings so your body is used to the feeling. After you are relaxed enough, he can go further and insert the new piercing pair. Do it like this until his whole penis is inside. It is vital to take your time – your body simply needs some time to stretch and accommodate these piercings. This is the only way to prevent discomfort.
  • Use smaller jewelry. This one is for your partner. Make him use the smoothest jewelry he has. Ideally, the balls on the jewelry should be small enough not to hurt the receiving partner and also smooth enough not to cause discomfort. Also, it is important that the jewelry he wears is of a good size – it should not be too long or else the bars will stick out and make the jewelry move, which can cause further discomfort.

Whatever you do, it’s important to talk to your partner. You don’t have to mention pain and discomfort if you don’t want to, but you should be able to communicate your wishes. At the end of the day, both of you will enjoy sex more if you are relaxed and enjoying the experience, so taking these precautions should be beneficial for both of you.

Metal Dildos: A Great Fun

Eleven DildoDildos are among the most popular adult toys. Both men and women use them to enhance their sex life.

Out all of them, the most powerful and intense ones are metal dildos. They are truly made for some powerful stimulation!

In order to enjoy your metal dildo you need to know about different ways you can use it. Of course, as usual, the only limit is your imagination!

Great for Solo Play

Metal dildos are amazing toys for self-exploration. Masturbation is particularly fun with one of those. A high-quality metal dildo is specially designed to hit all the right spots, and most of them work great for both vaginal and anal stimulation. If unsure, however, check out the toy’s description. Dildos made for anal penetration should have a wide base so they are safe for anal use.

Metal dildos are great at bringing up the arousal and orgasm, especially in people who otherwise have a difficult time reaching sexual climax. They are made of smooth yet sturdy material so they are very powerful and can hit all the sweet spots. These toys are ideal for those who like powerful stimulation and intense experiences. If you are scared that metal toys may be “too much” for you, we advise you to use plenty of lube. This is a great way to ensure comfort and perfect solo play.

Another great thing about metal dildos is the material itself. These dildos are made of a very durable material, so they will last you for ages! Metal is also a great material for cleaning: you can easily clean and sanitize your toys so they are always safe to use. And last, but certainly not the least: metal toys are great for temperature play. They can be easily heated or cooled so you can achieve many different sensations with them. Whatever your fantasies are, be sure you can fulfill them with a nicely-crafted metal dildo.

Share with a Partner!

On the other hand, metal dildos are not made for solo time only. They can make a great addition to any sexy encounter with your partner! They are perfect for steaming up your foreplay. It is a great way to play with each other and discover each others most sensitive spots. This is a great time for exploration and bringing up the arousal. This may particularly be true for those people (usually women) who have a difficult time relaxing and reaching climax. Using a toy during foreplay is a great way to get the juices flowing!

You don’t even have to stop at the foreplay. Metal dildos make good sex even better. A sturdy toy can make any sexual act more exciting. Perhaps you wish to try double penetration but you’re not into threesome? Dildos are a great way to go. Or maybe the male partner wishes to try anal stimulation? Metal dildos are a great answer. Whatever you enjoy, be it anal sex, vaginal sex or any other type of erotic encounter, a well-crafted metal dildo can help making the experience even more exciting.

It’s one important thing about sex toys that not many people know: they actually encourage intimacy and bring partners close together. So, use them!

The Male G-Spot

prostateThe Male G-Spot (yes you have one) is often overlooked or thought of as weird or perverted. But the truth is, it was put there for a reason. OK men, think about it this way, women DO NOT have a prostate. Therefore, anal sex for a woman doesn’t hit any good spots really. That’s why women have clits.

But, men do have prostates, and they can be easily the best orgasm of your life. Although you will probably be scared to try it at first, or maybe you are a regular, it will be worth it. And this is not being written for a gay man, he already knows. This is for you guys out there who think you should never have anal stimulation or only want to do it to your woman. Well, change up and let her try it on you. You will not be disappointed.

Many men like there “taint” massaged or stimulated and you can start there, or do both. First you MUST have LUBE. Slowly begin putting pressure on the anus. You will want to do this several times, slowly and gently. Once you feel comfortable, insert your toy, I recommend on of the anal toys from thechaingang.com. They have a big selection.

Anyway, with plenty of lube on your toy, you or your partner, slowly and gently insert the toy. You will know the G-spot when you find it. It is a chestnut size bump about 2 inches inward. No gently press against the prostrate. You may find that you like an up and down motion or constant pressure. The first time, you may be too nervous for actual stimulation and you can try again later. But whichever method you choose, and you can certainly create your own, once you start stimulating, you will not want to stop.

There is not just physical stimulation involved. It is a very relaxing and emotional release. Take your time, use your lube, and you will love the outcum. Try thechaingang.com for the best anal toys on the web.