One of the most important things to keep in mind about urethral play is that you need to have your urethra stretched if you wish to practice urethral stimulation on a more serious level. While stretching and training is not necessarily needed if all you want to try is a small penis plug, it is vital if you wish to engage in more serious forms of urethral stimulation.
This urethral stretching, also known as urethral training, is an integral part of urethral stimulation process. It is recommended for everyone who wish to try deeper urethral stimulation or those who want to practice urethral play on regular basis. You may try a few smaller urethral toys while your urethra is stretched but if you are serious about urethral stimulation you will need to train and stretch your urethra before moving up to bigger and heavier toys.
In this sense, urethral stretching is not only recommended but needed. It is a must for everyone who wish to perform urethral stimulation safely and with full satisfaction. For this reason, it is not something you should simply overlook or forget about it. Nor it’s something you can do without any effort. Remember, training your urethra properly does take some time so this is not something that should be rushed out. If done correctly, it can be very fun and enjoyable so it’s not uncomfortable or boring. However, it is definitely something that should be done if you wish to practice urethral stimulation in a safe way.
Warning: Urethral play is an activity that brings certain risks. It is important to proceed very carefully and slowly. It is also vital to be as informed as possible before stretching your urethra or engaging in any other form of urethral stimulation. Ideally, you should visit a kink friendly doctor before you attempt any form of urethral stimulation. Your doctor can give you advice on how to stay safe during urethral stretching and other forms of urethral play. If you experience any sharp pain, prolonged discomfort, bleeding, swelling or another problem during urethral stimulation, make sure to seek medical attention immediately. It is important to keep yourself safe during this form of sexual activity.
Before You Stretch
Before you learn how to stretch a male urethra it’s important to understand what an untrained (non-stretched) urethra looks like. Keep in mind that a lot of this is individual. There are no two men who are identical so it is important to find out what works for you. Urethras come in many different sizes and have different widths. While the differences are usually not particularly striking, it is important to note that these differences exists. In other words, some men have naturally wide urethras that make for easier insertion of urethral toys. Others have very narrow urethral passages so insertion of even the smallest toys becomes difficult. Most men, however, have urethra of an average size, which means that it can accommodate certain urethral toys without much problem but is unable to take larger toys without stretching.
Another thing to keep in mind is that you will probably not know how big (wide) your urethra is until you start experimenting with urethral play. It is not always possible to tell thins thing and other factors such as penis size are not a good indication of the wideness of your urethra. Also, keep in mind that the pee hole (meatus) is tighter and smaller than the urethra itself so it’s not a good indication, either. The only way to know how wide your urethra is and what kind of toys it can naturally accommodate is to try urethral stimulation.
Keep in mind that in most of the cases, you will be able to insert at least some urethral toys inside your urethra even before you stretch your urethra to a larger size. This doesn’t mean that stretching is not needed – it is always important to perform gradual training and stretching to be able to accommodate larger toys and to perform deep urethral stimulation. However, it is possible to insert some toys with a bit of patience and a lot of lube. This is why most men start experimenting with toys to see if they like the feeling of urethral stimulation before they commit to stretching and using larger toys.
It is important to approach first toy insertions with care and to truly take your time. Make sure to use plenty of lube and to stop as soon as it hurts. There is no need to insert a toy fully inside your urethra the first time. It can be done in several sessions and in many days. Do not rush things out.
While performing your initial experimentation with toys and before you start stretching your urethra, make sure to go with the right type of toys. Ideal urethral toys for beginners are shorter, smaller penis plugs and beginner’s urethral sounds. When choosing a toy for yourself do not only worry about its length but also thickness. While you will not be able to take very thick toys until your urethra is properly stretched make sure to never use toys that are too thin.
Thin toys may seem like a good deal for beginners because they look like they might fit your urethra easily. However, thin toys are actually dangerous for beginners. These toys can slip in without notice and are difficult to control properly. They also tend to be sharp and can cause numerous problems such as creation of false passages and other injuries. This is why toys that are too thin are actually reserved for more experienced users. Beginners should stick to slightly thicker toys. Not way too thick to hurt, but do not go with the thinnest toys you can find.
Ideally, a urethral toy should be of the same thickness as your urethra. It should fit your urethra perfectly with a bit of lube. You should feel it all around your urethral hole, touching all sides of your urethral wall but without causing painful stretching and serious discomfort. Some discomfort and a bit of burning is normal, but you should not experience sharp pain or other major problems.
Once you get used to the feeling of inserting urethral toys that fit your urethra you may proceed to stretch your urethra to be able to accommodate larger toys. The important thing to keep in mind is that this stretching should be gradual so it doesn’t hurt your urethral tissue.
Common Ways to Stretch a Male Urethra
There are several common ways to stretch your urethra to a larger size. One approach uses toys of graduating sizes to train your urethra. Meaning: you start with a smaller toy and then move to one that is one size larger. When you are comfortable with that one, you move up to a larger size, and so on. Many people use this method because it allows them to use toys they are comfortable with and move to larger toys when they feel they are ready.
This approach usually uses a urethral sound kit. These kits include urethral sounds of varying sizes (typically 6-10 in the kit). Some urethral sounds are double-ended and each end of a sound has a different size. This way, you get 12-20 different sizes to play with. These kits are great for those who like to play with toys of varying sizes and experience many different sensations. If you choose to stretch using a urethral sound kit, make sure not to start with the thinnest sound in the kit. This one will probably be too thin and thus dangerous. Instead, go with the sound that is one size bigger than the smallest one (the second smallest in the kit) or even the third smallest in the kit, depending on the size of your urethra.
While this approach can work for many people, it is important to know that urethral sounds (or penis plugs, for that matter) are not really made for urethral stretching. These toys are used by people with a trained urethra and are used for regular urethral stimulation. In order to stretch your urethra safely and comfortably, it is best to use specialized toys made for stretching. These urethral trainers and stretchers are specially designed to help you stretch your urethra without pain and discomfort.
Urethral stretchers and trainers typically have a shaft of graduating thickness. It means that these toys are thinner at the tip and wider at the end. This allows for graduate, comfortable stretching because you’ll be starting with your natural size and slowly working up towards your goal.
The best thing about urethral stretchers is that you don’t have to use them in one go: simply insert the stretcher as much as you can and stop when you feel discomfort. Wait until your body is recovered to try inserting a stretching deeper. Never push or force the toy inside the urethra: it should go inside with just a bit of a pressure. Force or excess pressure should not be applied: your body will “suck” the toy in once you get past the meatus. Make sure that the toy is properly lubed all the way and not just the tip, and also make sure to apply some lube on your pee hole. This will help you a lot.
When using urethral stretcher and trainers, it is important to go slowly. Do not expect to insert the toy fully in one go. This can be dangerous and uncomfortable. It is important to go step by step and take each bigger size on the stretcher only after you are comfortable inserting smaller sizes. This is one of the best thing about urethral stretchers: they allow you to take your time and take as much as you can in one go. When you feel discomfort, make sure to take the toy out and try again only after your body is recovered. Don’t worry about inserting the whole toy: it will come to you naturally after a period of stretching.
How do I Know that My Urethra is Stretched?
There is no one way to tell that your urethra is stretched properly because different things work for different people. A lot will depend on your anatomy and also your goal. Those who only wish to insert a bit bigger toys but do not want to try deep urethral stimulation or don’t want to use massive toys can stretch more quickly than those wanting to try extreme urethral stimulation.
Also, you don’t have to stretch in one go. It is quite possible to stretch a bit, have fun with new toys you can insert and move on to stretching even more when you are ready. This is why it’s best to always have a stretcher in addition to regular urethral toys. This way, you can stretch and try a regular urethral sound or a penis plug when you think you’re ready. This can be a very rewarding and enjoyable experience.
As a general rule, your urethra is considered trained when you are able to insert urethral toys of your choice without a problem. It does take some time to get there, but keep practicing, stretch gradually and the results will show. It is good to have a smaller goal in mind at first because it will take less time to stretch only one or two sizes up instead of wanting to insert the thickest urethral toys. If you really want to try the massive, thick toys and the biggest sounds in the kit, you are still advised to go gradually and stretch one size at a time. You will get there eventually, but it’s important not to rush things out.
Let your comfort level and enjoyment tell you when your urethra is stretched properly, because this is the best way to tell. Once you feel that it’s easy and comfortable to insert your chosen urethral toys you can consider your urethra trained. Of course, it is not necessarily “completely trained” because this is a process that is subjective. You are trained when your urethra can accommodate toys of your choice. If you wish to take even larger toys, you will need to stretch your urethra even further.
The good news is that any additional stretching beyond the initial one usually goes smoother and with less of a problem. Chances are that you will need less time than the initial stretch and that you may not need to use specialized stretchers. Using slightly bigger urethral toys may be enough. However, all depends on your comfort level and individual anatomy so you need to find the stretching style that works for you.
Just whatever you do, make sure to take your time and to go slowly. Use plenty of lube and be patient because these things should not be rushed out. Remember, stretching should be a fun and rewarding experience so if done right, you will enjoy every second of it.
Craig Rutledge is a staff writer for TheChainGang. His main interests include sex toys for men, particularly urethral sounds and ball stretchers. He is also a proud owner of numerous body piercings. He says: “I am happy to contribute with my experience and knowledge about various penis toys and stretching devices. There is still so much unknown about things like urethral sounding, ball stretching or male chastity and it needs to change. I will share my experience and advice in order to help men, young and old, to discover these toys and have the best fun”. In addition to writing, Craig also answers questions and provides handy advice for people learning more about extreme sex toys for men.