Sex toys just go out of their way to make life sweeter, easier, and better. The immense variety of them means there’s always a sex toy for everyone and couples too, and using these toys as a couple sure can do a lot to solidify the bond you both share.

However, not everyone with a partner is all that eager to introduce sex toys into the relationship. This might be because persistent urban myths mean that your partner is likely to believe that your wanting to use sex toys is a telling and damning indication that their performance in the sack has been sorely lacking. Your partner might also believe that sex toys are a means to replace them, or might have been raised to view such toys as weird, kinky, evil, and the like. Or they heard of someone who suffered a sex toy malfunction and might be uncomfortable talking about all or most aspects of the sexual experience.

Regardless of why your partner is not all that gung-ho about sex toys, there are some things you can do and say to introduce these toys to them in a way they won’t be able to resist. Here goes:

• Easy Does It: it probably won’t be easy talking with your partner about sex toy usage. You can expect them to be shocked, disappointed, or angry. It might take weeks or months to make them see your point of view and that’s perfectly okay. Try to be respectful, accommodating, affectionate, and understanding and patiently hear out their reasons for not wanting or being less than eager to introduce sex toys into the equation, no matter how crazy or silly such reasons might seem to you. Do your best not to force the conversation, never be seen as rigid and unreasonably demanding, and make clear that you are not seeking to replace your partner with a sex toy and that you are not out to shame and blame them for your poor sex life and only bring up the oft-tricky conversation at the most opportune moments. Plus be careful that your partner does not feel like they are being railroaded into fulfilling your sex toy fantasy, their feelings be damned.
• Right Mood, Right Times: imagine telling your partner that you want a dildo in your ass just as he’s heading out in the morning, upset that he’s late for work. Or would you go on a fancy dinner date with your in-laws and loudly announce your sex toy needs and wants to the hearing of everyone with a working pair of ears? See, there’s a perfect time for everything. The perfect time for X-rated talks like the one we have in mind would be when you two are mellow and in a freaky mood. While making out for example, you could just gently wonder aloud how this or that sex toy would look like when stuck in their holes and how rad it would make them feel. Pick the right time, use the right lines and everything will go smoother for sure.
• Be Understanding and Flexible: is your partner ready to have a frank conversation about your collective sex toy needs? Then cut them some slack. Gently explain once again why you think there’s room for XXX toys in the bedroom you both share and outside of it too, ask your partner about their needs and suggest how sex toys can help you two to achieve these needs better and more orgasmically than would otherwise be possible while enhancing the connection between you two. Reassure them that sex toy usage won’t interfere with their enjoyment of you and your body and if there’s any particular kind of sex toy they feel strongly against, then stop talking about that type of toy and focus on others.
• Be Specific: you gotta let your partner know the kind of sex toy you have in mind. They could for example be thinking that all your talk about sex toys means you only need a vibrator or dildo. Imagine their shock and dismay if you let them know at the last moment that a fuck machine like this one is more your cup of tea. So, when having the sex toy talk, be sure to let your partner in on the specific kind of toy you got your heart set on and ensure they are favorably disposed towards it.
• Get To Shopping: want to make the whole sex toy experience more fun for your partner? Then once you two have talked over your sex toy needs and wants as many times as needed, you both can sit on the couch and shop for sex toys that you two are comfortable with. In need of a more hands-on feel? Then stroll with your partner during the weekend into any novelty shop and buy sex toys that are appealing to you both. However, we would recommend buying sex toys online, especially because your partner might not be too comfortable purchasing toys with you in physical stores. Not to worry, online purchases are generally risk-free, discrete, and speedy. At TheChainGang for example, we ship your items in the most discrete packages you might imagine and there’s no business name listed in the return address. Apart from very discreet shipping, you get top-class products that do what they say and more, and who could ask for anything more?
• Take It Easy, Chum: just because your partner has given you the go-ahead to buy and introduce sex toys into the mix does not mean you should go all-out from the get-go. Take it easy and introduce their bodily orifices to one sex toy at a time, and that’s better than rushing to fill all their holes with every sex toy your eager fingers can reach. Start small, give your partner time to appreciate what they are experiencing, and remember they are gonna need breaks when the whole thing gets too much for their brain matter to safely process. Yeah, take it easy on them for the first few weeks at least, and refrain from trying to overwhelm their senses and show them what they have been missing out on.

Common Sex Toy Questions 

Is Sex Toy Addiction Real?
Yes, sex toy addiction is as real as pots of gold at rainbow ends!

What Are Body Safe Sex Toys?
These refer to sex toys made using non-toxic materials like glass, steel and silicone. Your cumming focus should be on body-safe toys, with other types posing grave dangers to your health and well-being.

Should I Use Lube?
Yes, lube is very important. Water-based lube is preferred, but silicone lube is longer lasting, while oil-based lube stains sheets and bedding like no one’s business. Also, silicone lube is not safe for use with silicone sex toys.

How Should I Dispose Of Sex Toys?
Just throw them in the trash, hon. If they are battery-powered, you might opt to first remove the batteries before disposing of them and if you are the sensitive type, then wrap your sex toy in a piece of old cloth before throwing them out. Yes, sex toys require no special disposal methods, and while a few are worth recycling, the vast majority are not.

Are There Benefits To Sex Toys?
Sex toys are marvelous tools for self and partnered exploration. Their usage adds joy, peace, and enjoyment to life and they are almost as old as human civilization.

Are Sex Toys For Internal Or External Use?
Well, that depends. Most sex toys are specifically designed for internal use, while others are for external use. Still, some external use sex toys can be used internally even if they are not designed for that.

Whew! Time to head to the comment section and have us all talk on sex toys and partners!