While urethral stimulation and urethral play are often seen as a male activity there are many women who enjoy urethral sounding. The main trouble for many women is how to make your body accept urethral toys for the first time. Since female urethra is shorter and smaller than the male urethra it is often challenging to insert toys for the first time.
Luckily, there are ways to make your body accept urethral sounds, but you need to go slowly and give yourself some time to adjust to this new sensation. Here are some tips for all women who wish to try urethral sounding for the first time.
Preparing to Try Urethral Sounding for the First Time
When using a urethral sound for the first time, it is absolutely important to go slowly. Keep in mind that your urethra is not trained, which means it is very narrow and has to be stretched in order to accept urethral toys. There are many different ways to approach this stretching but they all include going slowly and carefully.
Probably the best thing to achieve the initial stretch needed to insert smaller toys is to use plenty of lube, both on the toy and your body. This will help make the experience smoother and more comfortable. Another very important thing to keep in mind is that it helps to be sexually aroused. When you are aroused, your body produces natural lubrication in the area, which keeps things smooth. Furthermore, when you are aroused your clitoris and urethral opening become bigger and thus easier to work with urethral toys.
Many women find that it is actually the most useful to masturbate to orgasm before trying to insert urethral toy. Your urethra is on its biggest and most relaxed during the orgasm, which can help you a lot when it comes to inserting a toy for the first time. However, keep in mind that it goes back to its original size shortly after the orgasm, so do not try to play with the toy for the first time after you are no longer sexually aroused. Part of the enjoyment of urethral stimulation is to massage the urethral area, which sends pleasurable sensations to your urethra, clitoris and vagina. For this reason, it is best if urethral sounding is part of the arousal and sexual activity rather than something you do after the arousal is gone.
Also, keep in mind that urethral stimulation, at least at first, might be uncomfortable or even a bit painful. While you should do your best not to hurt your body or damage the tissue, some of the discomfort is to be expected. You should not be in big pain or prolonged state of discomfort – these things are actually very real warning signs. On the other hand, do not expect everything to go smoothly the first time you attempt it. Just like your vagina or anus, your urethra needs some time to get used to the new sensation and the feeling of toys being inserted inside of it. For this reason, it is not unusual for the first few times urethral sounding to be uncomfortable or a bit painful. You need to do everything you can to minimize this problem. Using a lot of high-quality lube will definitely help. Make sure to re-lube when necessary. Another thing you can do is to go slowly and take one tiny step at a time. Stop whenever the feeling becomes uncomfortable and try again after a few moments. If you see the session is taking too long (more than an hour or two), it is best to stop and let your body rest. If this happens make sure to give your body at least a few hours (ideally, overnight) to rest before you continue.
Be Aroused during the Session
A lot of this has to do with sexual arousal, however. Going back to what is said above, sexual arousal helps making the experience more comfortable, and not just because there is more natural lubrication (though that, too). When you are aroused then more things feel pleasurable and you have the urge to try it. This can help a lot when it comes to the first time sounding because it will make the experience less uncomfortable. For this reason, being aroused but not orgasming may be the best way to go. Once you have an orgasm your arousal level rapidly decreases and the whole area around your urethra becomes too sensitive. While some women enjoy this sensation it may be too overwhelming for the others.
If you find it too intense to attempt urethral stimulation after an orgasm, a good way to try is to be on the height of the arousal, but prior to orgasming. Masturbate using your fingers or a toy until you get very aroused. Once you are aroused enough, place a lubed urethral sound on your urethral opening. Use a mirror to help guide you. Position the urethral toy on the right place and make a gentle push – do not use any force! The toy will probably not slide in on its own but it is on the right place to start. Do not stop masturbation. It is very important to have pleasurable sensations on your clitoris, vagina or the anus while doing this. Choose a sweet spot that arouses you the most and keep rubbing it with the other hand (or a toy) while you gently press the urethral sound onto your urethral opening. The familiar, pleasurable sensations on your clitoris will make the experience more arousing so you will feel less discomfort once the urethral toy starts entering your urethra. Make sure to keep your legs spread so the urethral sound can go easily once your body is ready to accept it.
Try to maintain the high level of arousal while you’re doing this, but do not orgasm. It is best if you are very aroused – this will help make the new sensation pleasurable instead of painful. Keep in mind that even if it doesn’t hurt (and urethral stimulation sure doesn’t have to hurt), this is a completely new kind of sensation. You need to give your body some time to get used to it and to recognize it as something arousing and pleasurable. For this reason, maintaining high levels of arousal is important – when you are aroused, even the new sensations can be pleasurable and any potential discomfort is easier to go through. This is one of the best ways to make your body accept the insertion of a urethral toy.
While doing this, try your best to postpone orgasm as long as possible. This will give you more time to experiment with urethral stimulation. If you feel you are getting close to orgasm, pause a little and then continue. Of course, the session should not be way too long – keep in mind that your body needs to rest after the new sensation and experience.
Other than that, however, it is best to keep high levels of arousal throughout the play to make your body more responsive to urethral stimulation.
This is a great way to go to minimize the initial discomfort and strangeness of the urethral stimulation. It is also one of the best ways to insert the urethral toy for the first time. Keep in mind that you don’t have to go all the way – inserting only the tip of the toy will be enough for the first time. This is a process that takes time so rather than forcing yourself to do it all in one go it is best to achieve a bit (for example, inserting only the tip of the toy) and then stopping to give your body some time to rest. Once you achieve these little steps you can allow yourself to orgasm.
Try to see how it feels when you orgasm with the tip of the toy inserted into your urethra – this will be a kind of a preview of the great things to come! On the other hand, if it doesn’t feel pleasurable, don’t worry. Your body will have plenty of time to get used to the sensation, but you need to go slowly and go one step at a time.
Finishing the Session
Once you orgasm, take the toy out slowly, clean it and store it. Also, don’t forget to urinate right after your urethral play is done to minimize the risk of urinary tract infections. You need to give your body some time to rest. A few hours is a minimum, but it’s best to give it the whole night. You may try again tomorrow or in a few days. Once you feel your body is ready, repeat the whole process: masturbate to get aroused, then use a mirror to position the sound onto your urethral opening while still masturbating. Try to gently push the toy in a little, all while maintaining high levels of arousal. The arousal and lube will help the process and make it more comfortable. When you feel you are tired or when your arousal becomes too big, you can have an orgasm and end the session. Remove the toy, clean it and give your body enough time to rest before attempting a new session.
If you approach urethral sounding like this you will discover that it becomes easier and easier to insert the tip of the toy into the urethra. After a while, you should be able to insert more than just the tip. Your body will also get used to the feeling of urethral stimulation, so it should slowly become arousing on its own. Many women who enjoy urethral stimulation claim that they don’t need to massage their clitoris during the process since it is pleasurable on its own. However, this is highly subjective and depends on the person. Once you become more experienced with urethral stimulation you will discover just the kind of massage you prefer and what kind of sensations you like.
Additional Info and Tips
- Listen to your body. It is the only way to know when it’s too much and when you need to stop. You may find it unbearable to insert even the tip of the toy on your fist session. If this happens, don’t worry. You may try again at a later time.
- Whatever you do, make sure to never force the toy inside. Even if it feels like it might go in. Do not use pressure or force to insert the toy. This is a recipe for trouble. You can damage the sensitive tissue and cause other injuries and further problems.
- One of the most challenging things is how to keep control when you are aroused. This is why it is important to go slowly, no matter how pleasurable it feels and no matter how aroused you are. It is another thing you need to practice. Make sure to be careful and go slowly even when you are super-aroused. Forgetting about this can cause injuries and other problems.
- You may encounter the opposite problem – you may find it very easy to insert urethral toys. It is not so common, but it happens. If this is the case with you, be happy: it means it will take less time and effort to train your body to accept urethral toys. On the other hand, it doesn’t mean you should be careless. Keep in mind that female urethra is short and that toys cannot be inserted deeper than a few inches maximum. For this reason, make sure to always go slowly and carefully when practicing urethral stimulation. It will take some time for you to learn how to control your urethral toy, even if your urethra is naturally wider and ready to accept urethral sounds.
- After the session you will probably feel some burning. This burning is normal and to be expected. The burning sensation will be stronger during urinating, but you should still make sure to urinate after the each session. The burning sensation should go away after a few hours or overnight. If the burning persists or if it gets worse, make sure to consult your doctor.
- If you experience sharp pain, prolonged discomfort, bleeding, strong burning that doesn’t stop even after a while, make sure to consult your doctor immediately. Keep in mind that urethral stimulation brings a certain degree of risk so you need to be careful. If you experience any problem it is vital to seek medical help straight away. Also, it is helpful to consult a kink-friendly doctor even before you attempt urethral sounding for the first time so you can receive some good advice on how to keep yourself safe during this sexual activity.
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