If you are a submissive, getting collared can be the equivalent of winning the lottery out of sight of the taxman and having enough deep and stretchy holes for your Dom to breed you all week long without letup if they so choose! Of course, you might need help with walking and sitting down afterward, but nothing good comes easy and a happy Dom is the only way to get the sun shining and the world merrily spinning on its golden-tinged track!

The Importance of Collars in BDSM

Jokes over, we got a lot to say today. Like how subs can choose their collars and what these collars stand for, which can be a whale of a lot and a bison of a ton!

Now, we are in the mood to hit this article out of the park and collar us some Pulitzers, so tune in with total abandon and prosper!

The BDSM Collar You Never Knew Was Gonna Set Your Ass Free!

Before we kick off the festivities and invite the duo of Beyoncé and Willie Nelson on stage, let’s do a bit of BDSM explanation. BDSM refers to sexual activities that take the form of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, plus sadomasochism. The whole thing is basically as old as mankind, but we aren’t gonna say that Adam loved to tie up Eve and give her a good bit of whipping with the old snake, while keeping her gagged with an apple!

In BDSM, two parties -the Dom and the sub/slave- agree on how the Dom gets to exercise control and how the sub submits. The details of this will vary from one couple to the other and will depend on individual preference, experience, level of trust, and mood.

BDSM typically involves role-playing, some form of bondage and domination, spanking, blindfolds, and collars. Some couples choose to buy purpose-built equipment online or offline, while others opt to repurpose common household items like belts and bedsheets. Whichever you go for is okay, as long as the limits of the equipment are fully understood and how they are to be used is fully known.

The Meaning of BDSM Collars

Now, let’s talk about BDSM collars. Collars mean different things to different people and can consist of tattoos, jewelry, belts, and rings. But they are typically made of leather and are worn at the throat. For some, the BDSM collar signifies the beginning of what will hopefully be a greatly exciting journey, and to others, collars are just something to be earned on the say-so of the Dom. BDSM Collars can also be nothing other than a fashion statement and folks who buy them for such use typically have a good number of them for pairing with different outfits.

BDSM collars can signify an unbreakable bond between the giver and the receiver, an atonement for sins and errors of omission and commission, and just about anything else, like total obedience, submissiveness, the fact of being owned and subject to the will of the Dom, and utmost willingness to please.

Regardless of what they might signify, collars in the BDSM universe are not something to be taken lightly, and getting collared by your Dom in a private or public ceremony can be one of the most soul-enriching and humbling experiences ever. But you don’t necessarily have to be in a master/slave relationship to have a collar and we are gonna look into that and other allied matters in the next chapter.

Collared For Pleasure 

Heard of wedding rings? You can stroll into most shops and get a cartload of them and what you plan on doing with them is your business. The same thing applies to BDSM collars, which are often not actual collars, but other symbols that typically represent trust, love, respect, and commitment.

Now, not everyone in a BDSM relationship wears a collar. Some don’t just like the look, or the feel, or they live in the basement of an Amish family and don’t wanna advertise their interests. Plus there are some who wear collars because they are training themselves for when they get to snag a Dom, or because it makes them feel sexy and/or in control.

There are even single folks who hold collaring ceremonies at which they swear to this and that and get themselves collared by themselves and that’s all good. But for this article, we will be restricting ourselves to Submissives in BDSM relationships and the kind of collars they need for first time use.

Choosing Your First BDSM Collar

If you are a sub, the choice of your first collar might be up to you. Or it might be up to your Dom. Should you express a need to be collared, a Dom would typically give you some time to think it over, because your getting collared is serious fucking business that’s on par with getting hitched. First collars for subs are also typically training collars and an upgrade from that might take months or years.

Factors to Consider

Should you be getting collared sometime soon, with the choice of collar being up to you, there’s some stuff you gotta ask yourself. Like:

• Do I Prefer An Actual Collar, Or Something Else More Private, Like A Fancy Necklace?
  actual BDSM collars can be nice if you work from home and don’t mind having something that boldly advertises your BDSM relationship. But if you are a 9-5 person and gotta look all legit for your uptight boss and customers, it would be best to get a discreet collar or something like jewelry that does not look like a collar.
• What Should The Collar Be Made Of?
  when it comes to BDSM collars, there’s a virtually endless range of styles and materials. You can opt for designs incorporating soft leather, stainless steel, titanium, and a wide variety of other materials and many are the firms that can design a custom piece to your specification that might incorporate design elements of importance to your past, present and future.Also, yougotta note that collars you might wear for kink play with your Dom can be different from the day collars you get to wear outside. So, it would be best to have different collars made out of different materials that are meant for different kinds of uses.
• What About Comfort and Convenience?: Well, Comfort, to our knowledge, lives in Tonga and is said to have wed a native chief at her earliest convenience! Just joking, folks! Regardless of whatever material or design language you choose for your first time collar, it is rather important to make sure that the collar is super comfortable.That makes it easier for extended usage and helps avoid risking your health and wellbeing to no useful purpose. Getting super-comfortable collars can be as simple as having one that can be tightened or loosened on the fly to meet varying needs. Or you can simply ensure that the collar is made of a soft and breathable material, while being at least one size bigger than your neck.

And that’s it for now on first time collars for subs that sob, folks! Any here got a story to tell about their first BDSM collar and what did it do for them? Well, they are welcome to tiptoe to the comment section and have their say with a kink of a leer!