Penis Piercings and Anal Sex: How to Prevent Discomfort

Jacobs_LadderBosendorfer: I need help! I’m a gay male (bottom) and have started seeing a guy who has a Jacob’s Ladder piercing (4 bars.) Sometimes I can take it, but often I just can’t. I try to live by a “never complain, never explain” attitude but some days I just feel torn up during the process and afterward. Is there some way I can take it more easily? Am I being a giant puss wagon about this?! I want to see what I can do on my end first before I suggest removing it =/. I’m starting to really dig this dude and I just don’t want to dilute his love for kink with too much vanilla… Some people just don’t care for Häagen Dazs ¯\_(?)_/¯!

Sex with genital piercings is exciting and can bring pleasure to a completely new level. However, it can also be a somewhat tricky affair before you get used to it. This goes both to the person with piercings and their partner. It is therefore recommended to take necessary precautions that will ensure satisfaction for both partners.

Here, we will outline the basic safety measures as well as issues with discomfort. While sex with a pierced partner can be very enjoyable, it can also bring discomfort – and Jacob’s Ladder is one of the more extreme piercings to encounter as a receiving partner. We will offer some advice that will help to make the experience more comfortable. Ultimately, however, it is all down to agreement and communication between partners: nobody should feel pressured into enduring discomfort. That being said, there are some things you can do to make the experience more pleasurable.

First things first, let’s talk about safe sex and penis piercings.

Sex and Penis Piercings: Stay Safe

There are certain things to keep in mind if you wish to have sex with genital piercings. The number one thing is safety. Genital piercings do not prevent you from enjoying sex; in fact, they can make sex even more exciting and arousing. However, the jewelry itself may prove to be problematic for some people. Furthermore, a specific care has to be taken about condoms.

While genital piercings and genital jewelry do not prevent you to use a condom during sex (in fact, condoms are often highly recommended), it is important to choose a large enough condom that can accommodate piercing jewelry. Also, the jewelry worn has to be smooth and to fit nicely so it doesn’t tear the condom. It may take some trial and error until you find the best condom that suits your piercings perfectly, but it is possible to find the model and brand that will go great with your piercings. Because of trial and error approach, it is highly recommended for any man with genital piercings to try different condoms before engaging in an intercourse with another person. This is the only way to figure out which type of a condom suits you best and which ones are best to be avoided.

Also, another thing to keep in mind is lube. If you have genital piercings you may wish to apply lube on the inside of a condom. The amount of lube used should be enough to prevent the jewelry from tearing up the condom but also small enough not to make the condom slip off during intercourse.

Sex and Discomfort

Another common you may encounter is discomfort during sex. This is particularly true for receiving partners and not the owner of the piercings. For the owner of a genital piercing, the most critical time is healing. This is why it’s important not to have sex right after getting a new piercing done. The abstinence time varies depending on the piercing in question, but it is vital to stick to the advice your piercer gives you. Once it is safe to have sex with your new piercing, it is highly recommended to use condoms, at least for a while.

However, once this period is over most piercing owners will be able to proceed with sex without a problem. Sure, some adjustments and changes to sexual routine are to be expected, but you should not encounter problems. If these problems persist, it is advisable to consult your piercer or even a medical provider. You should be able to have sex with genital piercings. In fact, some piercings are specially targeted to make sex even more enjoyable. At worst, it should be a neutral change, but it should not prevent you from having sex.

Which brings us to the issue of receiving partners. Many partners report great satisfaction and enjoyment they get from their man’s pierced penis. Both men and women claim that having sex with a man with a pierced penis is a special experience that brings pleasure to a whole new level. That being said, it is not unheard of that sex may become uncomfortable for the receiving partner, especially if their man has multiple penis piercings.

The discomfort is often reported for anal sex. Being a receiving partner during anal sex can become uncomfortable or even painful. In the case of multiple penis piercings, the issue is even more pronounced, especially if the man has large gauge piercings or if the jewelry makes the penis particularly rugged or wide.

The good news is that there are some things you can do to make the experience more comfortable. However, it is important to talk to your partner and work together at overcoming this problem.

How to Make it More Comfortable?

Here are certain things that will make sex, particularly anal sex, more comfortable for the receiving partner. None of them is a magical cure, though: sometimes, they need to be combined to achieve the desired effect and sometimes it will simply not work completely. But they are helpful and can be used to make sex more relaxing and enjoyable:

  • Use quality anal lube – and use plenty of it. As you probably know, good lube is a must-have for anal sex. If your man has a pierced penis, this is even more important. It is vital to use more lube than normally – jewelry and added girth to a penis will make penetration more difficult. In order to stay on the safe size, everything has to be lubed properly: the penis, jewelry and the receiving partner.
  • Use anal toys before you go. It is often helpful to use large butt plugs or other anal toys before sex. It will make your body prepared and ready, so it will be easier for you to take your partner’s pierced penis. When using anal toys, make sure they are big enough to make a difference. Also, don’t forget to use plenty of lube!
  • Be aroused. Probably the easiest way to overcome pain and discomfort is to be really aroused. Your partner and you should take enough time for you to be ready. Use toys, masturbate, touch each other – the opportunities are endless. Once you are completely excited and craving for more let him penetrate you.
  • Go slowly. Your partner needs to understand that it’s impossible to simply shove his penis inside you. In the case of multiple penis piercings, such as Jacob’s Ladder, it may not even be physically possible for him to go fast. Take your time and go one piercing or one piercing pair at a time. Take some rest between piercings so your body is used to the feeling. After you are relaxed enough, he can go further and insert the new piercing pair. Do it like this until his whole penis is inside. It is vital to take your time – your body simply needs some time to stretch and accommodate these piercings. This is the only way to prevent discomfort.
  • Use smaller jewelry. This one is for your partner. Make him use the smoothest jewelry he has. Ideally, the balls on the jewelry should be small enough not to hurt the receiving partner and also smooth enough not to cause discomfort. Also, it is important that the jewelry he wears is of a good size – it should not be too long or else the bars will stick out and make the jewelry move, which can cause further discomfort.

Whatever you do, it’s important to talk to your partner. You don’t have to mention pain and discomfort if you don’t want to, but you should be able to communicate your wishes. At the end of the day, both of you will enjoy sex more if you are relaxed and enjoying the experience, so taking these precautions should be beneficial for both of you.

The Most Popular Piercings for Men and Women

Body piercings have been around since forever. Anthropologists believe body piercings may have been common even before the advent of the agrarian economy (living by farming, as opposed to hunting). That’s a long time before the goth kids and punk rockers made body piercings a lucrative trade. Piercings are one of those rare fashion trends that can apply to men and women both. Both a man and a woman can have a pierced nose, and be perceived the same way. That’s why body piercings can be so unique: they almost surpass gender.

Nowadays, most people have pierced ears or noses. To understand how certain kinds of piercings have become so popular above others, it’s important to know a bit about the modern history of body piercings. Piercings can be broadly categorized in two parts as facial piercings and body piercings. Facial piercings are more common than in other parts of the body, mostly because of the fact that they tend to be more visible. Some types of facial piercings are even culturally approved and maybe even mandatory.

For example, in South India, it’s a traditional practice for an adult woman to pierce her nostrils and ears. The controversial thing would be not to do so. This is in quite stark contrast to how the same types of piercings were perceived in western societies in the nineties. Nose and earring piercings were popular among teenagers during this time, and was widely considered a sign of teen rebellion. As far as teens are concerned, the more the parents hate it, the more they want to do it.

In the twenty first century, much of the controversy surrounding piercings have dissipated, so it’s more common to see people sporting fashionable eyebrow or lip piercings. In North America, about fourteen percent of the adult population has a piercing. Women are more than two-thirds likely than men to have a piercing.

It’s not that difficult to understand why. Piercings, especially facial ones, are more acceptable for women than for men, who are not as likely to accessorize with body jewelry due to stigma. And yet, interesting enough, the most popular piercings are equally favored by both men and women.

When it comes down to the statistics of most popular piercings, ear piercings, in or around the earlobe, seems to have a head start, at least in western societies. Most piercings in adults are ear piercings, and the numbers are significantly higher in women (almost sixty percent) than in men (a little over twenty percent).

Ear piercings are one of the most visible of piercings and do not necessarily come with any statements (other than fashion). It may explain their massive popularity among both men and women nowadays. After ear piercings, navel piercings are the most popular among women. A little over three percent of women choose to pierce their navels. On the other hand, navel piercings are close to zero among men. Clearly, gender differences play a significant role in which piercings men and women prefer.

After nose and ear piercings, gender continues to eschew the statistics of most popular piercings. About two percent of women choose to pierce their noses, while the less than one percent of men prefer to do the same. Around one percent (rounded percentages) of women and men both get tongue piercings. Men on average get lesser piercings than women, especially facial ones. However, men and women are roughly alike in their preferences for eyebrow piercings. Eyebrow piercings are edgy and bold, and that attracts only a select few to try out this kind of piercing.

Surprisingly enough, the number of men who get nipple piercings are roughly the same as women. Most of these piercings—navel, nipple and tongue—have sexual connotations attached. In the nineties, when piercings really took off, some believed piercings in such places would increase sexual attractiveness and maybe even enhance sexual pleasure. Those ideas largely remain the same as these types of piercings remain popular.

Interestingly enough, lip piercings have taken a tumble as a popular body piercing. Pierced lips were common throughout the eighties and nineties, but nowadays less than one percent of either men or women get one. Perhaps it’s due to the fact that lip piercings affect a person’s ability to pronounce certain sounds, which affects everyday functioning.

Piercings are no longer a teen trend. Most piercings are sported by adults with high functioning social and professional lives. They prefer to have piercings that do not affect everyday life, like lip piercings does with communication.

Genital piercings, too, are now less popular than they were about two decades ago. When it comes to the numbers in percentages, they are minuscule for both men and women. This is mainly due to safety issues. When it comes to bodily piercing of any kind, safety trumps fashion. Few dare to risk the complications of genital piercings not done safely. Also, though it’s very much possible to get a genital piercing done safely, it might cost considerably more than a regular nostril piercing.

Many kinds of piercings suit men and women both. Rather than going with what’s most popular, anyone considering a piercing should think first about whether a certain kind of piercing would be suitable. Some people may have health conditions that prevent them from getting popular types of piercings. Before getting a piercing, think about where you want it and how visible the piercing should be. Do not decide hastily.

Do proper research on safety of the kind of piercing you want and do not hesitate to take two or three days to decide. When you are absolutely sure, carefully select a piercing artist. Think about reputability and safety of the provider foremost. It might be best to go with a temporary piercing rather than a permanent one initially.

This article was submitted by one of our Guest Bloggers:
Mads Phikamphon

Many Thanks, Mads

Female Urethral Toys

Female Urethral Toys 1kitty kat: I’m having a hard time finding FEMALE sounding and catheter play equipment. Please send me links.

Female urethral stimulation may not be as popular or well-known as male urethral stimulation, but it exists. It exists and it’s as pleasurable and exciting as male urethral stimulation! All ladies who feel intrigued by this type of sexual pleasure can enjoy it to the fullest.

Unfortunately, there is not enough information about female urethral stimulation. Most of the articles and product recommendations are focused on men. This may leave many women confused about the subject. Some women may think that female urethral stimulation is impossible to achieve, while others struggle to find appropriate toys to fulfill their desire.

Here, we will outline some of the basic toys women can use to try urethral stimulation to the fullest. We will also mention some important rules one has to follow in order to preserve safety and full satisfaction.

Overview of Female Urethral Toys

Some women will find that they can use male urethral toys or universal urethral toys without a problem. In fact, most urethral toys are not labeled by gender, which means that they are not specifically made for men or women. In so many ways, this makes sense – a urethral toy is a urethral toy and in theory, it can be used by both men and women.

That being said, since female urethra is much shorter and somewhat tighter than male urethra, most women will need smaller and thinner urethral toys than those used by men.

You may think that starting with smallest toys is the only way to go. However, it’s important to know that longer toys are not necessarily bad for female urethral stimulation, as long as you don’t try to shove them too deeply into urethra. Typically, men use penis plugs for cock stuffing and sounds for deeper urethral stimulation, but many women find sounds to be more comfortable than penis plugs. This is because penis plugs are specially designed for penis use, while sounds are general urethral toys.

Therefore, the ideal female urethral toys will be shorter and thinner sounds, as well as smaller trainer toys (used for urethral stretching and training). When choosing a urethral toy for a woman, make sure it’s thin enough to accommodate the woman’s body.

Some recommended models and types of urethral toys suitable for women:

Full-Size Urethral Sounds:

  • Hank Sounds

    . These urethral sounds are among the shorter variants. They are typically made for urethral stretching so they come in smaller sizes and are suitable for beginners. They typically have a ridge at one point so you can use it as a stop marker to prevent you to go too deep. If you wish to try urethral sounding, it’s best to start with these.

  • Hegar Sounds

    . Hegar Sounds are among the safest urethral sounds on the market. Do not be intimidated by their length – they are among the most comfortable urethral toys. Just make sure not to go too deep. Depending on the size, these may be reserved for more experienced users.

  • Pratt Sounds

    . These sounds are a bit longer but are thin enough for women to use. If you want to go with Pratt Sounds, it’s best to choose Beginner’s Pratt Sounds since they are very thin. As with any other sound type, make sure not to go too deep. Depending on the size, these may be reserved for more experienced users.

Princess Albertina Piercing for Stimulating Urethra

Another interesting way to stimulate female urethra without toys is Princess Albertina piercing. This is a female genital piercing equivalent to male Prince Albert piercing. Princess Albertina passes through urethra and exits on the top of the vagina.

This piercing massages many sensitive spots inside urethra, so it can be very arousing. With Princess Albertina, you may be able to reach your urethra for stimulation just by rubbing your clitoris or by gently tugging on the jewelry.

In order to accommodate this piercing, a woman has to have large and wide enough urethra, so it’s ideal for those who have some experience with urethral stimulation.

Princess Albertina piercing can be very arousing but keep in mind that it increases the risk for urinary tract infections. It is therefore vital to consult a reliable piercer who is experienced at performing this type of piercings. You should also prepare for the possibility that the piercing might not work for you. However, if done correctly, it can help women stimulate their urethra.

How to Approach Urethral Stimulation

  • Once a woman is sexually aroused, the urethra enlarges and it’s easier to access it. This is why all women who wish to try urethral stimulation should strive to be aroused first. Once you are used to the feeling of urethral stimulation you can start from scratch, so to speak (begin a session with urethral stimulation without being previously aroused), but for beginners, the best and most comfortable way is to be aroused first. You can masturbate, have an intercourse or try some toys, but do not reach the orgasm. You need to be aroused and ready.
  • The urethral opening may seem very tiny, but it’s actually larger than it looks. It can definitely accommodate urethral toys, but they need to be properly lubed and you will need to train your urethra gradually. Do not expect great results from the first try (even though they can happen!) Start by simply inserting the tip of a toy to see how it feels. Later, go inch by inch by gently stretching your urethra. Make sure to use plenty of lube!
  • Many women claim that their most intense orgasms are during urethral stimulation and simultaneous clitoral stimulation. This is also the easiest way to ease yourself into urethral stimulation so make sure to always massage your clitoris during urethral play.
  • Urethral stimulation is fun but it carries a risk of urinary infections. To prevent this, you must always use only sterile toys. It is therefore best to use Surgical Steel urethral toys, since they can be properly sterilized. Make sure to take your time to sterilize your toys before each session! Also, after urethral play, don’t forget to clean your toys.
  • Everything used for urethral play: toys, lube, fingers, etc. has to be clean. Make sure to take precautions to stay safe.
  • Always, always use only toys specially designed for urethral use. This is the only way to go. Never attempt to insert any random object into your urethra. The toys are made to be used in this way and they accommodate the body perfectly. To stay safe and to prevent any potential injuries and other problems, use only special urethral toys.

Madison Piercing

Madison PiercingMadison piercing is a relatively rare piercing performed through the skin at the front of the neck.

At the same time, it is one of the more popular surface piercings, so it’s definitely not uncommon among body piercing enthusiasts.

Piercing and Placement

Just like any other surface piercing, Madison has a relatively high rate of migration and rejection. It is also a very sensitive piercing, so it’s important to perform careful aftercare in order to keep it as long as possible.

Madison piercing got its name after the porn star Madison Stone, who was the first person publicly associated with this piercing. However, Rasmus Nielson was the first person to actually have this piercing.

This piercing is placed horizontally at the jugular notch (base of the neck). Typically, this piercing is placed slightly above the collarbone.

The procedure is not complicated, but this piercing does carry certain health risks. First of all, the healing period is very long, so this is one of the things to keep in mind. There are also reports about Madison piercings that did not heal at all after one year. It’s clear this is a very sensitive piercing.

Another issue is a high rate of migration and rejection. Madison piercings that are not healed properly or those that migrate and reject will typically cause scarring. In order to prevent problems, it’s vital to perform adequate aftercare. In addition to regular cleaning it’s also important to avoid any kind of irritation that might lead to infections, migration and rejection.

In order to prevent irritations, it’s vital to choose proper placement. Madison piercings placed too low will get caught on clothes. On the other hand, if it’s placed too high it will cause tension on the tissue due to skin movement. That’s why it’s important to find a reputable piercer experienced with this type of piercing to ensure success and minimize problems.

Jewelry

A typical jewelry piece for Madison piercing, especially initial jewelry, is a surface bar. Some people choose to wear flexible barbells instead. In some rare cases, people choose Captive Bead Rings as initial jewelry, but this is not a good choice since CBR can lead to quick migration and rejection.

After the piercing is healed a different type of jewelry can be worn. While surface bars are always popular for this type of piercing, it’s also possible to wear Captive Bead Rings, as well as barbells of different kinds. Curved barbells tend to be particularly popular with Madison piercing.

Additional Info and Tips

  • Madison can be very effective but it’s important to heal it properly first. If you notice your piercing not healing it’s best to take jewelry out and retire the piercing before it causes further trouble.
  • In addition to migration and rejection Madison piercings can be dangerous in certain situations. For example, if you suffer a trauma on the neck it can cause impact damage. Keep in mind this piercing is located at a very sensitive spot.
  • In order to minimize migration and rejection risks it’s vital to wear softer jewelry or special surface bars as initial jewelry.
  • Jewelry for Madison piercing should be light in order to minimize pressure on your neck. Avoid overly complicated and richly decorated jewelry pieces on this piercing.

What is the Ideal Ball Stretcher for Beginners?

Ball Stretcher for BeginnersThere are many people who want to engage in ball stretching but they don’t have enough experience to know how to start with the best possible product. In order to stretch your balls properly and to the greatest enjoyment, it is vital to choose an appropriate device. There are so many different ball weights and other ball stretching devices you can buy, so it’s not surprising that people are confused.

In your search for that ideal first ball stretcher it’s vital to know that everything is individual: what might be a great ball stretcher for you might not fit another person. This is why it’s impossible to recommend only one model of a ball stretcher as ideal for beginners who wish to try ball stretching for the first time.

At the same time, it is undeniable that some types of stretchers are simply better than the others, especially for beginners who wish to try stretching for the first time. These ball stretchers are highly recommended for beginners.

To ensure fur satisfaction and safety, it is best to go with metal ball stretchers. You may be surprised to hear this advice. You may think that leather ball stretchers are better for beginners, since they are softer and lighter. While it is true they are lighter they are often more difficult to put on and take off, and they are not so reliable when it comes to stretching and quality of results.

For these reasons, it is actually recommended to start with a metal ball stretcher, namely, a Surgical Steel ball weight. These stretchers are smooth and easy to use. You should start with a smaller and lighter metal model to ensure the best experience and results.

The good news is that you can find high-quality Surgical Steel stretchers that are not too pricey and not too heavy to be intense for beginners. These stretchers are comfortable and smooth so they are great for newbies. At the same time, they are also sturdy enough to provide good results and help your body get used to the feeling of ball stretching in a safe and effective way.

How to Choose a Good Stretcher?

An ideal first-time metal stretcher is the one that is simple in design, smooth and not too heavy. Also, it is important that it’s well-crafted to ensure the best results. Here are some things to keep in mind when choosing a beginner’s metal ball weight:

  • Choose a light stretcher. All metal ball weights are sturdy and somewhat heavy, but it’s best to choose a lighter model at first. You can always increase the weight and add more stretchers on top if needed, but wait until you are more experienced. Do not use an overly heavy and big stretcher at the beginning. At the same time, avoid stretchers that are overly thin, because they may be a bit uncomfortable.
  • Choose a smooth stretcher. Your metal ball stretcher should make a uniform oval or a circle when closed. Such stretchers typically open in two halves. They are completely smooth when closed, which provides a better experience, particularly for beginners who are still not used to the feeling of stretching. Such stretchers are more comfortable than the others, so they are ideal for first timers.
  • Choose a stretcher that’s easy to put on and take off. Most metal ball stretchers are easy to use, but when in doubt, go after the one that is easiest. It is the best way to go for beginners, since using ball weights require a bit of practice. This is why it’s important to use a stretcher that is very easy to use. It will help you get used to these devices without any problems.
  • Choose a simple stretcher. Go for a stretcher without additional features (such as hooks for ropes, spikes, etc.) Once you are more familiar with stretching you will be able to try more advanced models but it’s best to go after simple designs at first.

Donut-shaped ball stretchers are a good design for newbies. They are comfortable, easy to use and provide great results. They are not the only type of Surgical Steel stretchers you may try but are a good choice if you are unsure on which stretcher to choose.

Ball Stretcher for Beginners: Tips and Info

Here are some things to pay attention to when choosing your first metal ball stretcher. There is also a list of reasons why you should go with Surgical Steel stretchers above all others:

  • Metal ball stretchers are very effective. This is probably the most important reason why you should use them if you’re starting with stretching for the first time. If your dream is to have those impressive low hangers, it is best to start right and use metal ball stretchers. They are the only ones that can help you achieve effective results.
  • That being said, do not use the heaviest weights you can find. As a beginner, you should stick to simpler, lighter metal ball weights at first. Once you get used to the feeling and once you gain a bit of a stretch you can add more weight or try heavier stretchers.
  • Metal ball stretchers are comfortable. You may be surprised to hear this: after all, they are sturdy and heavy. Fear not: these stretchers are specially designed for comfort and a pain-free experience. In fact, they are often more comfortable than leather ball stretchers. You should not be intimidated by metal ball weights: just follow the instructions, use lube and you will discover that they are very comfortable to wear, even for prolonged periods of time.
  • There is a huge variety of metal ball stretchers. They come in many sizes, designs and weights. This means you will sure be able to find one that suits you perfectly. But it may also make it more complicated to choose the first one, since there are so many to choose from. If in doubt, always go or the simplest and most comfortable models until you are ready to try more intense ones.
  • Metal ball stretchers are easy to use. It is easy to put them on and take them off. They usually have screws or another mechanism to open the device, so it is very easy to put on and take off. This is another reason why they are so good for beginners.
  • Metal ball weights are specially designed for effective stretching, so they are of high-quality. Good craftsmanship and design also means better safety for you. This is why metal ball stretchers are the best way to go.
  • Surgical Steel ball weights may seem too extreme, but they are beginner-friendly. The only thing to keep in mind is not to go after the biggest and heaviest devices. Also, avoid those that are overly complicated or some with additions (hooks for ropes, spikes, etc.)
  • If you wish to hide your ball stretcher, it is very easy, since they can be safely worn under your clothes. Chances are that nobody will see your stretcher unless it’s too big or if you use multiple weights at once.
  • It is crucial to wear a correct size. Metal ball stretchers are useless if you don’t have the right size. If they are too big, they may fall off and if they are too tight it might cause problems with circulation. In order to ensure safety and satisfaction it is absolutely vital to wear only ball weights of the right size. The size you need is not always obvious and cannot be determined based on pictures – you will need to measure yourself. Luckily, the procedure is easy and there are many handy tips on how to measure yourself in order to get your proper size. It is important to measure yourself and determine the size you need before you choose your metal ball stretcher.
  • Stay away from poorly made products! They are unsafe and useless. It is always better to pay a bit more for a quality product. At the same time, you don’t have to pay a fortune for a quality stretcher. It is important to stick to reliable stores and you will be fine.

Piercing Tips You May Not Know

578tHere are some quick and handy piercing and aftercare tips you may not know. All of them will help you maintain a healthy and clean piercing.

Keep in mind: even the little things can make a difference between a successful piercing and a disaster!

Be Mentally Prepared!

In order to ensure the best and most comfortable experience at the piercing studio, you need to know yourself. What does it mean? You need to know what kind of company and circumstances will make you the most relaxed. For example, some people feel better and braver when they go with a trusted friend or a family member. Others feel more relaxed when they are alone. These are all individual choices and piercing studios are often happy to allow other people to be there with you. However, you need to know yourself enough to understand what kind of company you really need. Do not feel pressured to go with friends or to go alone if this isn’t what truly makes you relaxed.

The same goes for other arrangements, such as the time of the day, being chatty or being quiet, etc. If you know that some type of environment will be helpful to you, make sure to talk to your chosen piercer. Keep in mind that they might not be able to accommodate all of your wishes and requests: after all, their first and most important responsibility is your safety and proper piercing procedure. Other than that, however, piercers are typically happy to accommodate your needs and requests, so make sure to talk to them and arrange things before hand. In order for this to work, however, you need to know yourself well enough: you need to know what makes you relaxed.

Never Twist the Jewelry!

One of the most persisting misconceptions about new piercings is that the jewelry needs to be turned and twisted in order to prevent tissue to heal on the jewelry and trap it. While this advice may seem logical, it is actually dangerous to do any twisting, turning or any manipulation of your new piercing or jewelry. In fact, the best thing you can do is to simply leave your new piercing alone. The jewelry won’t get jammed inside the new piercing hole, so there is no need to twist it or turn it. However, it is vital to keep your new piercing clean and to apply a saline solution a few times a day. That will keep your new piercing clean and healthy.

But what about the scabbing, you ask? Some new piercings will produce small scabbing but most of it is just a small accumulation of fluid that a new piercing produces. The best policy is to clean your piercing regularly so the scabbing doesn’t form. If it does form, you can remove it carefully by using a cotton swab with a saline solution on the tip. Resist the urge to move and rotate the jewelry in order to break the scabbing! Always try to soften it using a saline solution and clean it that way. If scabbing persists, you should contact your piercer.

Do Not Overclean!

You may think that the best way to go with your new piercing is to clean it often. After all, you do want to keep your new piercing and jewelry clean. You may also think that cleaning often is the best way to prevent scabbing and other problems.

However, too much of a good thing is bad. While it’s important to clean your new piecing properly and to apply appropriate aftercare, a good approach is to know how to do it. Cleaning your piercing 20 times per day, for example, is not the best way to go. Nor is cleaning your piercing with strong, harsh solutions. Both of these approaches will lead to irritation and other problems, so they are not recommended in the long run. Remember: you should never overclean your piercing! Stick to the standard aftercare advice and do not clean your piercing more than a few times per day. Also, make sure to use only gentle solutions (saline solutions are the best).

Be Patient!

There is an important thing to understand about piercings and other body modifications: they are a great way to change your looks and to make a meaningful mark on your body. It is therefore understandable that you want to see the change immediately. However, there is one truth about most body modifications: it takes a bit of time to get to the look you wish to achieve.

What does it mean? In the case of piercings, it means that it takes some time until the piercing is healed. Only healed piercings are finished peircings you can enjoy properly: they look just how you want them to look and you can change jewelry freely. In the case of tattoos, it often takes some time and effort until they are done completely. In the case of other modifications, such as scarification or ball stretching, it takes time to achieve the desired effect.

In other words, body modifications take time before they look exactly how you want them to look. Which means you have to be patient with them. Do not rush things out and do not expect perfect results overnight. In fact, they will look great only if you take a proper care of them during the healing period. This is why you need to just be patient, perform care instructions carefully and wait until your piercing or body modification is ready.

Be Ready for Small Changes

When you get a new piercing, you need to be ready to accept small changes during the healing time. These changes include small discomfort or paying attention to things you usually don’t notice. For example, you may find it difficult to sleep in certain positions so you will need to find a way to keep your new piercing safe during night. Or you may need to wear loose clothing items in order not to put too much pressure on your new piercing. Those with ear piercings will need to make sure to keep their hair out of the way. More than anything, you need to be ready to dedicate some time every day to clean your new piercing properly.

Those are all small changes but they can be frustrating and tedious. It is not unusual for people to do it properly in the first week after getting a piercing but once the first swelling and discomfort is gone, they become lazy. Don’t be that person. Piercings take longer time to heal: weeks, sometimes even months. You need to be responsible and make the appropriate changes to your daily routine in order to accommodate your new piercing. This is the only way for your piercing to heal properly.

The Most Effective CBT Devices

Cock and Ball TortureCock and Ball Torture (also known as CBT) is an extreme sexual activity popular with kink and BDSM practitioners, but you don’t have to be actively involved in BDSM to enjoy it.

As the name suggests, cock and ball torture focuses on causing pain on male genitalia (penis and testicles).

This activity can be highly arousing for those who enjoy it, but it’s important to follow all safety and health warnings since it carries significant risk of injuries and other problems.

In order to practice CBT safely and to full enjoyment, it’s important to follow all healthy precautions. The other necessary thing is to choose the right toys and devices. If you wish to practice CBT safely it is vital to use only specialized devices designed for CBT and other types of penis and scrotum manipulation.

Here is the list of the most popular and effective CBT devices:

Ball Crushers and Lock Downs

Ball crushers and lock down systems are specialized toys made for CBT. They squeeze and press testicles as tightly as desired. They typically have a screw mechanism so they are very adjustable. The exact effect will depend on the person and the type of CBT play. The best ball crushers are made of Surgical Steel and they are also the most intense ones.

It is important to use only crushers specially designed for CBT. In order to preserve safety, it is vital to use only these devices instead of random household objects. Of course, the same safety warning applies to all devices on this page, but it is particularly important to remember about ball crushers, since they are among the most intense CBT devices you can use.

Stretchers with Ropes and Weights

Extreme forms of ball stretching can be used for some CBT play. While all ball stretching devices can be used for manipulating testicles and painful experience, some stretchers are better for this purpose than the others. It’s important to understand that while ball stretching may look painful or extreme on the outside, it is not specifically made for CBT. In other words, ball stretching is usually pain-free and doesn’t cause discomfort. This is why stretchers need to be used in particular ways in order to be suitable for CBT.

Also, a lot will depend on the stretcher itself. Huge, heavy stretchers are generally more intense so they can be used for CBT more easily. However, the best way to turn your ball weights into CBT devices is to use them in a combination with accessories, such as ropes and additional weights. Some stretchers, such as parachute ball stretcher, come with special hooks and rings you can use to make the experience even more intense or painful, if this is the desired effect.

One of the most effective ways to maximize the experience is to attach ropes to the ball stretcher and use them for bondage. It is possible to move those ropes or hooks in different direction, which results in very intense sensations and pain. Adding more weight to the existing ball stretcher or attaching weight on ropes will also accentuate the sensations. This way, it is possible to turn ball stretchers into CBT devices.

Man Humblers

Another good CBT device is a man humbler. Humblers are great for numerous types of kink and bondage games, especially for those who like some heavy testicle pay. While they are not specifically designed for pain, they are great for combining cock and ball torture with bondage.

A man humbler is specially designed to resist the movement. This specialized cuff with a wooden or metal bar is positioned behind the thighs. The balls are tightly pressed in the humbler which forces the man to fold his legs forward. Any attempt to straighten the legs or to stand straight causes a harsh pull on the scrotum and significant pain.

This is a great bondage device for keeping slaves under the control. It is often used for many kink activities and CBT. Depending on the partners, man humblers can be used for simple control or for causing actual pain.

Electrosex Devices

Electro stimulation is a type of sexual play using special machines and devices. Electrosex devices use electric current to stimulate erogenous zones. They are used in a combination with special clamps and electrodes. Electro stimulation can range from teasing vibrations to more intense sensations and pain, so it can be used for CBT is applied to male genitalia.

In order to ensure safety it is crucial to use only electro devices specially designed for sexual use. This activity carries significant health risks if not used correctly, so it’s vital that you understand what you’re doing if you wish to use electro sex for CBT or other kinky activities.

Spiked Cock Rings

Cock rings are not your typical CBT devices, but they can be used for cock and ball torture. This is particularly true for special, intense cock rings with spikes and screws. These cock rings can be used to apply pressure and pain on the penis. This is particularly useful in a combination with another device that is used on the testicles. This way, you can experience a full CBT that involves both cock and balls!

A good thing about spiked cock rings is that they can be used to stimulate different sensitive spots. The glans is the most sensitive part of the penis, so using spiked rings as glans rings is a very effective CBT technique. However, these spiked rings can be used on the penis shaft or even on the balls to cause pain and other sensations.

Urethral Toys

Urethral toys are specialized devices made for urethral stimulation. This type of penis stimulation is highly arousing and erotic, so it is often used by men who do not like pain or discomfort. However, just like ball stretchers or cock rings, urethral sounds and other devices can be used for CBT.

The trick here is to find an appropriate urethral device. It should be big enough to truly make a difference. Heavy sounds that can reach deeply into urethra are a good choice. Same goes for penis plugs with pumps and textures. These devices can be used in combination with ropes and additional weight to cause pain and other sensations.

If you wish to use urethral devices that reach deep into the urethra you need to know what you’re doing. Make sure to be familiar with urethral play before you attempt something like this, since deep sounding carries certain health risks.

Other Devices

There are some other erotic toys and devices you can use for CBT:

  • Clamps. There are many different types of clamps used for erotic play. Most of them are applied on the nipples and vary from gentle clamps made for teasing to the heavy, metal clamps ideal for nipple torture. The good news is that you can use these clamps for CBT in many different ways.
  • Spiked Wheels. A spiked pleasure wheel is a powerful tool for kink and bondage. It can be used to tease or cause pain, so it can be used for cock and ball torture. Wheels with many rows of spikes (such as 5 or 7) are made for teasing, while the ones with fewer rows of spikes (such as 3 or 1) are made for more intense and painful sensations.

Warning: Before using any of these devices it is important to learn all the safety precautions and be informed about potential health risks. It is also highly advisable to consult your doctor before attempting any type of CBT or using any of these devices. It is crucial to stay safe and prevent risks associated with CBT and other extreme sexual activities!

Piercing Blowout

Piercing BlowoutOne of the worst things that can happen to you when you try to stretch your piercing is blowout.

This is a relatively rare thing, but you need to know that it can happen.

That’s why it’s so important to go slowly when it comes to stretching and be very responsible in this aspect.

What is a Blowout?

A blowout can happen when a piercing is stretched too fast. It usually happens when your piercing is not ready but you force it to stretch anyway. Typically, it occurs when you force a taper or a jewelry piece through your piercing to stretch it to a larger gauge.

What happens is that a piercing that’s not ready gets hurt. The skin from the piercing gets forcibly pushed through the piercing and it exits on the back o the piercing hole. As a result, you get a flap of skin or tissue hanging from the back of the piercing. That is what is considered a blowout.

This happens when a skin tunnel (called fistula) is forced on the back of the piercing through the pressure applied. This is what creates a lip around the edge of your piercing. This blowout may be very small initially, but it may grow significantly, especially if you continue to stretch your piercing even further.

A blowout is a huge aesthetic problem, but it gets even worse than that. Once you get a blowout you won’t be able to stretch this piercing further and it might affect the piercing completely so you won’t be able to wear any jewelry anymore.

A blowout can also cause further medical issues, such as tingling and discomfort. In some cases it can even lead to an infection. It’s clear a blowout is a nasty problem you don’t want to have.

Luckily, there is a way to remedy this problem. However, it’s important not to freak out and to be patient.

How to Treat a Blowout

One of the first things you can do is to downsize your piercing. The easiest way to achieve this is by inserting smaller jewelry (jewelry of the smaller gauge). This can help the blowout tissue to get reabsorb into the body so the problem is remedied. It is vital to replace the jewelry straight away or else the stretched piercing will heal in this blown-out shape. Once it’s happen it will be very difficult to remedy the problem.

In addition to this, it’s vital to make the tissue heal the best you can in order to remedy the problem. Wash your hands carefully and make sure to use only sterilized jewelry for your blown-out piercing. Use gentle saline solution to soak your piercing with a blowout in order to make it heal. This is similar to usual piecing aftercare, but it’s worth to keep the saline solution for longer. Make sure to use a cup with a saline solution that is tall enough to cover all of your piercing (in the case of stretched earlobes, make sure that the cup covers your whole ear). This is a good way to make your tissue heal and remove the bad effects of a blowout. Just make sure to use a new plastic cup every time you apply the saline solution.

In addition to this, you should also use plenty of oils to massage into your ear. The best oils to use are vitamin E oil, jojoba oil, emu oil, caster oil, tea tree oil, olive oil and coconut oil. Use the oil of your choice about 2-3 times per day. Rub it gently on the blowout and massage it. It’s best to use it when the blowout is new and fresh, so it’s important to start doing that straight away.

While you’re doing this cleaning and rubbing the oil, make sure to observe your piercing to see how it’s doing. Notice the shape and size of the blowout and see if it’s getting better. It should show the signs of healing after several days. If it stays red and swollen or if it hurts, you should seek medical help.

Whatever you do, do not attempt to stretch your piercing again until your blowout is gone and your piercing is fully healed. It’s important to be patient. It will take about one month before you can attempt to stretch your piercing again.

Types of Cock Rings

3/4 Wide Cock Ring

3/4 Wide Cock Ring

There are several popular types of cock rings you can use. Generally speaking, cock rings can be classified based on material and design.

Cock rings are excellent sex toys that can make your erections rock-hard, make your penis more sensitive and improve your performance.

For the best experience it’s important to know which kind of cock ring to use.

Cock Ring Materials

Cock rings are made of numerous materials. There are two major material groups: soft and hard. Soft rings are made of light, often elastic, materials such as rubber or silicone. Hard rings are made of sturdy materials, typically metals. These two cock rings types are made to achieve the same thing (erection enhancement), but to a different degree.

  • Soft cock ring materials typically include rubber and silicone, though these rings can be made of other materials. Leather cock rings are also classified in this group, even though they are not as elastic as rubber or silicone. These rings have advantage that they are softer and more comfortable and thus suitable for beginners and those who prefer lighter pressure. On the other hand, the effect is not as pronounces as with sturdy cock rings.
  • Hard cock ring materials are sturdy, typically metals, though there are some wooden cock rings and hard rings made of other materials. These cock rings are made for more advanced users and they cannot be worn for a prolonged period of time (unlike soft cock rings). However, the experience is more intense and the effect more pronounced so there are many men who prefer these cock rings. If you wish to wear a metal cock ring, make sure it’s made of a body-friendly metal to prevent any allergies or other risks. Also, keep in mind that metal cock rings and other hard rings can only be worn for 20 minutes to half an hour the most before you have to take them off.

Cock Ring Designs

The basic cock ring design is simple: it’s a ring made of a soft or a hard material made to be worn around penis or testicles. Typically, a cock ring is worn around the base of the penis but other placements are also possible. For example, a glans ring is worn under the glans (penis head). Glans rings and penis rings are usually same in design, but some variations may be encountered depending on the ring used.

Triple cock rings are designed to stimulate various erogenous zones at once. These toys consist of three interconnected rings positioned at angles that allow a man to wear the toy around the penis and testicles at the same time. These rings, just like other types of multiple cock rings (such as penis spines) provide much stronger stimulation than single rings.

Cock rings can also be made with additions designed to provide more stimulation for wearer and his partner. For example, vibrating rings have an integrated vibrating bullet or another small device that provides stimulation. Another way to enhance the functionality of a cock ring is to adapt the design to stimulate the wearer’s perineum or other sensitive zones or to stimulate the wearer’s sexual partner during intercourse.

Cock Rings with Other Toys

Another great way to use a cock ring is to integrate it with another sex toy. While it’s always fun to use a cock ring in a combination with another adult toy, these toys are specially designed to include both a cock ring and another toy so they make a unique pleasure device.

Cock rings and glans rings are particularly popular with penis plugs and other urethral toys. When attached to a penis plug, a glans ring has two purposes: to keep the penis plug in place and to provide additional stimulation during use.

Similarly, an anal toy may come with a cock ring attached to provide simultaneous massage to several erogenous spots. This is a great way to get some intense anal stimulation and to experience what it means to wear a powerful cock ring.

Stretching with Tapers: Things to Consider

Economy Insertion Tapers

Economy Insertion Tapers

Stretching with tapers is a very common method for stretching your piercing. In fact, it is the most common method you can apply. Tapers are affordable and easy to use, so it’s not surprising many people decide to give it a go and use tapers to stretch their piercings.

Unfortunately, not everybody knows how to use tapers properly. It’s important to note that while tapers are very common and relatively easy to use, they are not always used in the optimal way. They may seem intuitive but there are also many mistakes you can make while trying to stretch your piercings using tapers.

In order to avoid all of these mistakes, here are some things to keep in mind:

  • To use this method properly, make sure to always insert the narrower end of the taper into the piercing first. This is your current gauge and the taper will gradually widen to the new, larger gauge. Never use a wide end of a taper first!
  • You need to go slowly and gently. Push the taper in until you reach the wider end. This should not be painful even though you may feel a bit of discomfort. When you reach the wider end, stop. Take your new jewelry and line it up with the wide end of the taper. Only then you should push the rest of the taper through your piercing. Make sure to keep the jewelry aligned with the wider end of the taper so you can push the new jewelry in, too.
  • Once you’re done you have stretched your piercing to a larger gauge. Make sure there’s no blood and no cuts or tears. If everything is fine, it means you’re done.
  • Tapers are specially designed for stretching and should not be worn as body jewelry. While they may look stylish and unique, keep in mind that they are not made to be worn as jewelry, especially not for a prolonged period of time. This is particularly true for acrylic tapers.
  • In order for this process to work, make sure to never skip gauges (sizes). It’s vital to go gauge by gauge. This is why it’s so important to use all of the tapers in a kit or to order individual tapers of all sizes, one by one.
  • When stretching, it’s important to be patient. Never stretch your piercing before you give it a time to heal after the previous stretching. You should never “jump” to stretch to yet a bigger size quickly.
  • Generally speaking, you should wait at least a few weeks before two sizes (gauges). It means that you need to use a new taper every several weeks or so (or once per month only, depending on your piercing and the way it heals).
  • In order to make the whole process smoother and easier, use a drop of lubricant. Apply lubricant to both your ear (or the body part where piercing is located) and the taper. In some cases you might even want to lubricate the jewelry.
  • Keep in mind that tapers are ideal for smaller gauges and this is where they work the best. “Smaller” here means anything under 00, which is still large enough for many people. However, if this is not what you want and if you wish to stretch to at even larger gauges it’s better to use a different method for more gradual and problem-free stretching.

Choosing a Taper

When choosing a taper, pay attention to:

  • Size to use. The size of the taper to use will directly depend on the gauge you have and the gauge you wish to achieve. Most piercings start at very small gauges (think 18 gauge or 16 gauge), so even stretching to 14 gauge requires a taper to be used. (Or another method, of course, but tapers seem to work the best). In order to use tapers properly, you need to know your current gauge at all times.
  • Material. Tapers come in many different materials. Acrylic tapers are flexible and comfortable, so they provide a better stretching experience. On the other hand, Surgical Steel tapers are more secure. They can be autoclaved, which makes them more body-friendly.
  • Shape. While tapers have a general shape there are certain variations between different designs. Some tapers have a special smooth finish to make stretching process more comfortable. Others offer a special way to connect jewelry to the taper securely and thus make the whole process easier. Other tapers are specially designed to slide in and out with least force. You need to know of different shapes and designs in order to be able to choose the best taper for yourself.

After Stretching

  • Always treat any stretched piercing as a new, fresh piercing. Guess what? This is exactly what a stretched piercing is. Luckily, the healing time for this sort of piercing is shorter than for the original piercing, but you should still treat it as a new piercing.
  • As a new piercings, newly stretched piercings require aftercare, at least in the first couple of days. Clean them twice per day with a saline solution or another appropriate product. Do not use harsh chemicals on your newly stretched piercings!
  • You may also try sea salt soaks to treat your newly stretched piercing.
  • If you notice any pain or discomfort after stretching, make sure to pay attention. In case of an infection or another problem, seek medical help. Stretched piercings typically do not cause so much trouble, but you need to be aware of the risks.